Elisa P. Merli, a 28-year-old woman from Piacenza, disappeared after lunch with Massimo Sebastiani on August 25, 2019. Sebastiani was a much older family friend who had developed an obsessive, unreciprocated romantic attachment to Elisa despite their platonic relationship and her stated attraction to women. Surveillance footage showed Elisa entering Sebastiani's chicken coop and Sebastiani later leaving while carrying a heavy object wrapped in a blanket. After 13 days in hiding, Sebastiani surrendered, initially claiming that Elisa's death resulted from an accidental fall during an argument. Forensic examination determined that she died from suffocation. Her body was recovered from a concealed forest burial site, and Sebastiani was convicted and sentenced to 20 years in prison, a sentence upheld on appeal.
Country: Italy
State/Province: Piacenza, Italy
City/Region: Piacenza
Incident Type: Murder
Relationship Status: One-sided love
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Incident Date: Aug. 25, 2019
Primary reported outcome: Homicide
Reported self-harm outcome: No suicide or attempt reported
Reported sequence: Order not reported / unclear
Additional victims reported: 0
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The source describes a platonic friendship that became increasingly one-sided after Massimo developed romantic expectations toward Elisa. He reportedly treated her sexual orientation as something to change, called her his girlfriend, reacted negatively when she spent time with others, and continued pressing for reciprocation as she tried to distance herself. The reported confrontation over Elisa's new employment and reduced need for contact preceded the homicide, concealment, and later disputed account of how she died.
Elisa was reported missing on August 25, 2019. Search teams, police, firefighters, helicopters, drones, and approximately 150 volunteers searched surrounding fields and rural areas. Surveillance footage placed Elisa and Massimo at Massimo's property and showed Elisa entering the chicken coop at approximately 2:11 p.m.; Massimo later exited carrying a heavy blanket-wrapped object. Massimo was formally charged on September 2, surrendered on September 7 after 13 days, and led police to the concealed burial site. Investigators reportedly found burnt blanket remains, Elisa's DNA in the trunk, and Elisa's backpack in Massimo's car. Forensic examination identified suffocation as the cause of death, contradicting his initial accidental-impact account. He received a 20-year sentence in 2021, the appeal court upheld it in 2022 while reducing post-release supervision from five years to three, and the source says he remains imprisoned in Piacenza.
Early reporting treated Elisa and Massimo as a missing couple and considered voluntary disappearance or an accident. The family disputed the romantic-escape theory because their relationship was understood to be platonic. Media reports also portrayed Massimo as a lovesick or kind-hearted figure. Massimo later claimed that a board caused Elisa's fatal injury during an argument, but forensic findings identified suffocation. The source contains inconsistent spellings for several names and places and presents some claims through a narrated retelling rather than primary documents.
Elisa and Massimo met through the family and developed a close friendship based on farming and repairing objects. According to relatives and friends, Massimo's attachment became romantic, possessive, and resistant to Elisa's boundaries. On August 25, 2019, they ate lunch at Il Lupo and went to Massimo's property to work on a chicken shelter. Camera footage showed Elisa entering the chicken coop and not leaving, while Massimo repeatedly moved in and out and later carried out a heavy wrapped object. He allegedly transported and buried her body, burned the blanket, remained hidden for 13 days, and then surrendered. His account attributed the death to an accident during an argument, but forensic examination reported suffocation, and the court ultimately convicted him.
High relationship risk was reportedly indicated by persistent unreciprocated attachment, refusal to accept boundaries, attempts to reinterpret a friendship as a romantic relationship, intrusive messages to Elisa's sisters, and possessive reactions to her social activities. The later concealment of the body, destruction of potential evidence, evasion, and conflicting explanation of the death indicate severe post-incident investigative risk. These indicators are source-based and do not constitute an independent clinical or predictive assessment.
The case illustrates the danger of treating persistent romantic fixation as harmless friendship when the targeted person has clearly stated different boundaries or orientation. Reported warning signs included possessive labeling, pressure to change Elisa's identity, intrusive contact with her sisters, sensitivity to her independent activities, and resistance to accepting distance. Investigatively, surveillance, vehicle and backpack evidence, blanket remains, DNA, witness accounts, and the suspect's eventual directions to the burial site were central. The source also highlights how victim-blaming and romanticized media coverage can obscure coercion and violence.
The most important reported early signals were Massimo's refusal to accept Elisa's platonic boundaries, his belief that her sexual orientation could be changed, his repeated messages to her sisters asking why Elisa did not love him, his use of girlfriend-like language, and his apparent resentment when she went out without him.
Key clues included the last lunch together, the speed-camera image showing Elisa in Massimo's car, the accidental video call from Elisa's phone, Massimo's changing accounts and movements, surveillance footage at the chicken coop, the blanket-wrapped object, the burnt blanket remains, Elisa's DNA in the car, and her backpack inside the vehicle.
The strongest reported evidence consisted of surveillance footage, the speed-camera photograph, forensic findings on the cause of death, DNA from the vehicle trunk, the recovered backpack, burnt blanket remains, witness observations, and Massimo's eventual account and directions to the burial site. The source says forensic findings contradicted his claim that a falling board caused the death.
Elisa's sisters described Massimo's obsessive interest, possessive behavior, and messages. A friend reported an abruptly terminated video call from Elisa's phone. The restaurant owner said the pair appeared calm during lunch. A gas-station owner reported that Massimo described Elisa as his girlfriend and said she had not helped him. A bar owner described Massimo as distressed, with red eyes and wet clothing. Massimo's dinner companion was reportedly told that he had not seen Elisa that day. Silvio Prati denied helping Massimo hide and said he contacted police after learning what had happened.
The understanding shifted from a possible voluntary disappearance, accident, or kidnapping to a homicide after surveillance showed Elisa entering the chicken coop and Massimo leaving with a heavy wrapped object. Massimo's surrender and confession provided a burial location, but forensic examination changed the reported mechanism of death from an alleged accidental head injury to suffocation. Later trial evidence and psychiatric assessment supported the conclusion that he could understand and control his actions, and the courts imposed and upheld a 20-year sentence.
The source does not provide a complete independent reconstruction of the confrontation, the exact sequence of physical acts inside the chicken coop, or a full account of Massimo's relationship with his former girlfriend and her family. It also presents a friend's later speculation about earlier planning without establishing that planning as fact. Some names, locations, and procedural details are inconsistently transcribed.